How to Get a Man to Commit
Women are nurturers by nature so having a long-term, serious relationship with a man is often one of their priorities. They don’t want to waste a lot of time and attention on a man who may end up disappearing from their lives tomorrow. So they focus a lot of mental effort on ways to get him to commit.
Men, on the other hand, often seem wary of women who are quick to initiate a talk about commitment. The mention of anything surrounding “where is this going” quickly shuts them down.
This is due to the media stereotypes that “all” women are looking to snag a man to play the role of their ideal husband and life partner. Virtually any man will do, so long as he is willing to follow her schedule of getting engaged, planning a huge wedding, and having kids in the near future.
These expectations create a lot of fear and anxiety in both men and women. Men shy away from commitment because they think it means replacing their fun-filled lives with heavy responsibility.
This, in turn, creates anxiety and fear in the women because she has a timeline in her head of when she expects from a quality man. If he isn’t yet ready to commit, will he ever be? She isn’t getting any younger.
Her increased anxiety over “where things stand” causes her to live in her head, always wondering how he really feels. Often, she will either start to distance herself from her man or will pursue him with more affection – neither of which help bring the couple closer or make her man want to commit.
Rather than force a man to commit based on her time table, the better approach is to relax and don’t force a relationship. Be secure enough to know that you are a good catch and that if things are meant to be, they will just happen.
Commitment conversations usually happen on their own, when both people are ready to “take the relationship to the next level.” There isn’t any awkward pushing and prodding because you both enjoy what you have for what it is, rather than trying to make it into something different.
If you know you are a great catch. If you have a happy, fulfilling life, and you have enough self confidence to know that loves in its own timeframe. Then, you don’t need your man to “complete” you or fill a glaring hole in your life.
Love and commitment will evolve naturally.
And when that happens, your man will appreciate you much more because you have given him the time and space to form his own conclusions – when he is ready – rather than badgering him based on your own neediness.
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