Getting dumped stinks. So it’s no surprise that the first reaction you have is to scheme up a plan to make your ex-boyfriend want you back. Here are some ways to make him wish he never broke up with you.
- Get fit. If you want to make your ex drool, get back your fit, toned body. Eat right (I’ve had great success following Tim Ferriss’ guidelines) and start regularly exercising with a combination of cardio and weight lifting. (No, you won’t get bulky.)
- Get a makeover. One of the best ways to feel better is to look your best. Change something about your appearance such as getting a new hair color or style, dressing differently (if you usually wear jeans and T-shirts, start wearing skirts), or finding a new makeup color that looks great on you.
- Improve your posture. Pay attention to how you walk, sit or stand. Keep your shoulders back and your arms down and open to convey that you are a confident, friendly, fun woman who is open to approach. When you walk, think to yourself “I’m gorgeous” or “I make a great catch” and your confidence will show through your posture. When you slouch or guard yourself with crossed arms or legs, you convey that you want people to leave you alone.
- Be warm and friendly. People want to be around those who are warm, upbeat, and positive. No one wants to listen to someone complain about every negative thing going wrong in their lives. Smile and look for ways to brighten other people’s day. Not only will you help someone else out, but you’ll feel good about doing it.
- Be independent. You don’t need a guy to complete you or make you happy. You can be whole and happy while single. Look for activities and hobbies that fulfill you. Take up a new interest or hobby. Join a club. Volunteer. Learn a new language. Take a trip. You’ll quickly realize that your life goes on – and isn’t so bad – without your ex.
- Be outgoing. Start meeting new people or reconnecting with old friends you may not have seen in awhile. In psychology, there’s a concept called “social proof,” which means people tend to value what other people value. If you surround yourself with lots of people who think you’re great, your ex will start to see you as being a friendly, outgoing person who is lots of fun.
- Date other guys. Like with having a great circle of friends, when you start dating, you see that other men value you as a romantic partner. Suddenly, your ex doesn’t seem like your only choice, but one of many possibilities.
Ultimately, the best way to make your ex want you back is to prove to yourself that you’re a wonderful, caring, loving person who will make a great girlfriend to anyone you choose to date. When he starts to see how you have a life without him, that you have lots of great friends and that other guys want you, he’ll start to see what a great girl he gave up and fear that he might not be able to win you back. That’s when he’ll start asking for another chance.
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Ok my ex boyfriend dates my ex friend well still friend but im kinda mad at her….. she knew i still liked him and we dated for 2 mths but i want him back before he gets in to strong with her i dont know how to tell him he likes me again either, and i want him to love me again. He means alot to me and i want him to think the same about me again. So what can i do to make him love me and like me again and forget about the other girl.
I need help please. I just met this guy from the military about a week ago. He asked me out, and we went on a few dates. It seemed to me that we have alot in common. He want’s to settle down, get married and have kids. Unfortunately, he had to be shipped back to Texas. When departing I was sad, but he told me to cheer up, because he was excited to see what was to come of this new relationship. Well a couple of nights later I was really drunk and I called Him.( Yeah I know drunk dailing is a no no) Well, it so happens that I called him saying that I didn’t want to be heartbroken, and I broke up with him. What I really meant to say is that I was really starting to like him, and I hope that he doesn’t break my heart. well the next day I called him and he was upset with me, I said I was really sorry and that was not what I had meant. It has been about 5-6 days since I last spoke with him. I tried calling and texting, but no response. I even said that if he didn’t want me to bother him anymore just let me know, and I won’t, still now answer. I have no idea what to do now. I want to talk to him that way I can come to some conclusion as to where I stand with him. Yet at the same time I don’t want to come off as being annoying? Should I just not call and wait to see what happens, or what? Please help, I really like this guy and I didn’t want it to end so soon and not this way. -Confused
I met a guy via friend a few months ago. And we started talking, he’s really fun and outgoing, but he’s a very busy person- he works 24/7. I believe I rushed the relationship too much, because he really wanted to get to know me more before we started a real relationship. I really love him, but right now we aren’t talking because he says when I do text or call him, i am annoying him. I asked him if he thought we could try again in the future and he said he didn’t know. Its been almost a week since our last conversation. I really angry at myself for pushing too hard and I am slightly mad at him. I don’t know what to do because I love him or I think I do. I really like his personality and other things about him. I lied to him (we weren’t really talking- dating)and I later told him the truth and even though i apologized he says he will never trust me again. I’ve been trying to regain his trust but he’s making it really hard, i guess he should be but I think i’m just annoying him even more. He knows that i am sorry, but he like to see actions not just verbal. I want to show him that I care about and for him, and that I really love him, and I don’t want to hurt him again. Right now, I’m just waiting. I just hope I will be let in again, even after all the bull.
I need help: should I continue to wait or move on? If we talk again and I’m offered another chance, should I take it or deny it?
I hope he wants me back a lot more than I want him back. I messed up big time and I pray he opens up to me again.
-lost in love
I had been dating this guy for almost a year. But he cheated on me and treated me terrible. He wants to get back together and is so hard to say no…