Beauty is one of those controversial things many women want to ignore. They want a man to love them for who they are. Yet when we let ourselves become frumpy and don’t take pride in our appearance, what kind of image are we portraying?

Last year, as I was just getting out of a long term relationship, my self esteem had just taken a beating. Over the last few months of my relationship, I had let myself go. I was about 20 pounds overweight, didn’t take time to do my hair or put on make up, and wore whatever I found comfortable at the time. In short, my external appearance was mirroring how I felt inside – unattractive and unloved.

When I finally felt ready to date again, I took a long, hard look at myself. If I didn’t feel I was attractive, why would the men I wanted to attract?

That realization caused me to really think about how I wanted to present myself. Sure, inner beauty is what sustains a relationship over the long term, but as virtually every research study shows, both men and women are attracted to appearances first. You never get a second chance to make a first impression.

What Is Beauty?

The media feeds us images daily of what beauty “should” look like. You can’t turn on the TV, watch a movie, or surf the Internet without coming across news on how the latest celebrity gained a few pounds, dressed inappropriately, or did something outrageous.

Often, like us, these celebrities don’t lead the perfect, glamorous lives we imagine, but struggle with their own demons, just as we do. When we see that they aren’t as perfect as we think they should be, it’s easy to criticize. Yet how often do we analyze ourselves and how others see us?

When we let ourselves go, we are really telling the world that we don’t take pride in our appearance. Our outer world is a reflection of our inner world. Think about it – how many people want to lose weight and make themselves as attractive as possible when they have a major event to attend, like a wedding or reunion?

During those events, we want others to see us in the best light possible. If we attend a high school or college reunion, we want to present ourselves as successful. We don’t want them to think we are down on our luck, life hasn’t worked out the way we wanted, and our best years are over.

You don’t have to be stick thin or in perfect condition to be beautiful. Virtually anyone can look attractive if they watch their diet, maintain hygiene and wear flattering clothing that suits their body type.

Beauty Starts From Within

How do you see yourself? If your inner world is in turmoil, you will project that in your appearance. Start by learning to love yourself. Find your passions and learn what excites you. Often, all you need is a bit of enthusiasm and positive energy from within and you will radiate beauty in your interactions.

When you are happy with yourself, when you can look in the mirror and accept yourself for who you are, you are on the right track. Beautiful people empower themselves with an active lifestyle and keep their minds active. They are confident in their opinions and will embrace other perspectives and worldviews with an open mind.

They also strive to be their best selves. Beauty is holistic – meaning to truly be beautiful, you need to project beauty in mind, body and soul. You can be the most attractive person in the room physically, but if you have a mean-spirited nature, you suddenly become incredibly ugly to people. At the same time, the girl next door who is average in looks might win over men with her big heart and generous nature. Who are you at your best?

Cultivate Outer and Inner Beauty

To be your best self, start by uncovering your passions, strengths, and talents. What do you love doing? Expand on that. Here are a few areas to think about when trying to attract a boyfriend.

1. Intelligence – Contrary to what you might think, most men won’t go for the “dumb blond” stereotype for a long term relationship. Sure, that will get their attention, but if they can’t hold a conversation, men will soon become disinterested. Build up your knowledge about history, culture, and current events by reading books, blogs, and news outlets.
2. Attitude – How do you view the world? Are you a glass is “half full” or “half empty” kind of woman? Start cultivating an attitude of curiosity, positivity, and generosity rather than always seeing what’s wrong with a situation. Men want to be around women who are happy and confident rather than those who always nag and complain.
3. Behavior – How do you react to situations? You can’t control other people or the world around you, but you have 100% control over how you react to things. Do you accept things gracefully or do you hold a life-long grudge against anyone you perceive did you wrong? Take things in stride and be careful not to blow things out of proportion.
4. Hygiene – It should go without saying that men like women who keep themselves clean and smelling nice.
5. Appearance – How do you present yourself? What is your personal style? Men won’t start dating someone they don’t find physically attractive, so make sure you exercise regularly, eat healthy, groom yourself and wear fitted clothing. Nothing says “stay away” like a scowling, frumpy woman in a tracksuit.
6. Engage – The best conversationalists do most of the listening in a conversation. They will often listen intently, repeat back what the person has just said, and ask additional questions about that subject. Stop chattering endlessly and start engaging in dialog.
7. Exude sexiness – The best way to attract a guy is to think and feel sexy. This doesn’t mean wear the skimpiest outfit you have. Rather, be confident that you are a great catch and play up your feminine side. Men love women because they are women, so make sure you flaunt your feminine side.

You don’t need creams or cosmetic surgery to be beautiful. Beauty starts with attitude. Be confident and flaunt your femininity. If you love yourself, you will soon find men are magnetically drawn to you.

Everyone has felt a bit nervous going into a first date, giving a public speech, interviewing for a job or walking into a party where you don’t know anyone. Yet, imagine you felt 100% confident in your abilities to handle any of these situations with grace – knowing you’ll be fine and make a great impression.

Self-confidence is the belief that you are perfect and good enough just as you are. It doesn’t stem from having certain characteristics like the body of a swimsuit model, unlimited wealth, or the perfect career. It’s not about what other people say, how you react to situations, or where you are in life. Rather, it’s a mindset you have about yourself and about the value you have to offer the world.

If you’ve read any dating or self-improvement books, you’ve probably heard that the key to success is being confident and “believing in yourself.” The problem is that you can’t make yourself believe in something you don’t – and that’s where Shaw’s book shines. This isn’t a book about positive thinking or “faking it until you make it.” Instead, he tackles the heart of the matter – how limiting beliefs about yourself are holding you back and what to do to overcome those beliefs in any situation you may find yourself.

This 185-page ebook is for anyone who would like to feel more comfortable with themselves personally, professionally, and in various social situations. It’s broken into 5 main sections:

• Personal Confidence – In this section, Shaw discusses how to recognize negative thinking patterns, how to overcome self-doubt when making decisions, how to be patient and kind with yourself rather than getting angry, and how to stop depending on other people’s approval to define your self-worth.
• Social Confidence – This section deals with how you interact in a group setting such as making conversation, dealing with embarrassing situations, and overcoming shyness.
• Professional Confidence – Here, Shaw discusses how to distance your self-worth from your results in business, which can be a challenging feat.
• Sexual Confidence – Your sexual confidence includes how you feel about your body, whether you feel attractive to the opposite sex, and how you imagine that others perceive you.
• Concrete Confidence-Building Techniques – Finally, Shaw tackles the practical ways to build your self confidence and become more confident today.

In addition, Shaw provides a number of bonuses

• How To Achieve Mastery of Your Inner Game – Your inner game is everything you believe about yourself such as “Do I believe I’m attractive to the opposite sex? Am I ready to have a relationship? Can I be a great partner in a relationship? Do I deserve the type of partner I want to attract?” In this audio session and transcript, you’ll learn to become more self-confident in your dating life.
• Master Your Confidence Through Overcoming Shyness – This audio session and transcript includes 5 tips for overcoming shyness and building self-confidence. There’s also a self-hypnosis audio session included to help you break negative thinking patterns.
• Hot Relationships: A Saucy Guide to Teasing Your Man – This guide lives up to its name – and teaches you how to be that sexy babe your guy won’t be able to keep his hands off.

Verdict: If you’ve ever wanted to change your perception of yourself from being shy, nervous, or scared to an unstoppable force who adds considerable value to the lives of those around her, then Supreme Self-Confidence is for you. Gain the confidence you need to succeed at life, business and dating with this action-oriented guide.

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Amy Waterman wrote The Seduction Genie to help single women navigate the dating road and become the woman guys want to be with. Despite what the name implies, this isn’t a how-to guide on keeping your man happy in bed, nor is it a list of sexual positions or tips to spice up your life between the sheets.

Instead, Waterman provides a just-the-essentials crash course in dating from how to be your best self to how to attract men to how to keep them interested.

Because you can’t attract the perfect man unless you know what you are looking for, Waterman starts by asking you to narrow down what exactly he looks like in your mind. Once you’ve got that down, it’s time to become the best you can be to attract that perfect guy. That means learning ways to make your appearance more attractive, how to exude confidence and femininity, and how to flirt and be approachable. No, you don’t have to look like a swimsuit model or dress like a floozy to attract men, but you can accentuate your assets, cover up your flaws, and walk with confidence to draw men to you with your charm and femininity.

Being ready for your perfect man is just step one. Step two is, of course, the actual dating. Here, Waterman dishes out practical advice on first date do’s and don’ts, how to prepare yourself for first-time sex, and how to keep the fires burning once you two are an item. Don’t worry if you’re shy – Waterman has advice for that too.

The ebook also debunks myths about relationships like that romance “just happens,” that somewhere there is a “perfect” man with no flaws,” and that your boyfriend should “complete” you and make you happy.

Who is this ebook for? This ebook is geared toward women who don’t have much experience at modern dating, especially those getting out of long-term relationships and back in the dating scene.

What bonuses are available? The Seduction Genie comes with a number of bonuses including:

• How To Attract Men Online Audio Course – Dating expert Simon Robbins gives women the scoop on how to attract men and keep them interested in this five-part audio course.
• Your Guide to Stronger Relationships – This guide tackles five key components of a strong relationship including maintenance, intimacy, affirmation, communication and conflict resolution.
• Guide to Online Dating – If you’ve been thinking of trying online dating, this guide will help you decide if it’s right for you, how to get started, what to put in your online profile, how to screen guys, and how to take the relationship offline.
• Hot Relationships: A Saucy Guide to Teasing Your Man – This guide lives up to its name – and teaches you how to be that sexy babe your guy won’t be able to keep his hands off.
• A Guide to Female Orgasms – Who doesn’t like orgasms or want more of them? This guide, written for women, explains what an orgasm is, the different types of orgasm, and how to have stronger orgasms.

Verdict: The Seduction Genie is great as a standalone crash course in dating or as a complement to Mimi Tanner’s Secrets of Flirting With Men ecourse. It’s highly recommended for anyone who finds themselves back in the dating scene after a lengthy leave or for those inexperienced daters who want to improve their skills with men.

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Flirting is a basic human instinct found in all cultures around the world. It’s also a fun way to show someone that you’re interested in them and would like to get to know them better.

We pick up flirting tips from a young age, yet we are often unaware of the things we do to try to attract a mate. Much of our behavior is unconscious, and it’s easy to be too subtle for men to pick up on your signals or even for you to send the wrong signals!

That’s where Mimi Tanner’s “Secrets of Flirting With Men” can help. In this eight-week course, you’ll learn exactly what it takes to attract a man and keep his interest.

Who is this course for? Primarily, this course is for single women looking to attract more men into their lives. However, women in relationships can also benefit by adding excitement to their current relationship with Mimi’s flirting tips.

How is the class delivered? Most of the classes are in written form, with a couple of audio classes. All classes are delivered online through a private website.

What will you learn? Here’s a breakdown of each of the classes:

• Class 1: Introduction to Flirting – Learn what flirting is, why we do it and what it takes to be a great flirt.
• Class 2: How You Look and Move – Learn how your appearance and posture affect how men perceive you.
• Class 3: Body Language – Learn how your body language signals your feelings and whether you’d be open and welcome to men approaching you.
• Class 4: Making Flirting Easy – Learn how to start a habit of flirting and how to think about flirting so it becomes natural.
• Class 5: The Flirting Prop – How to use props to aid you in flirting, especially if you’re shy and want men to approach you.
• Class 6: A Man’s Advice on “How To Flirt” (audio class) – Dating expert Simon Robbins gives women the scoop on how to attract men and keep them interested.
• Class 7: Master Flirting Tips – Mimi answers questions on how to flirt but still win his respect and how to test a man’s interest level.
• Class 8: The True Femme Fatale (audio class) – Learn how to intensify your flirting and how to move from casual flirting to a full-blown romance.

Finally, Mimi provides two bonuses:

• How to Have a Hypnotic Effect On Your Man focuses on how women can better understand what men want in a relationship and how you can keep him interested.
• How to Meet More Men Than You’ve Ever Thought Possible focuses on where and how to find good men to date. If you’ve ever thought to yourself, “There aren’t any good men around,” this guide will open your eyes to all the men you’ve been missing out on.

Verdict: If you feel shy or nervous around men – or you just want a refresher course on how to be more open, friendly and flirtatious with men – then this is a must-own course. By reading through Mimi’s tips, you’ll become more aware of what signals you send to men through your appearance, actions and body language. You’ll also learn how to appear more confident, friendly and fun-loving so that men will want to approach you.

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