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Perhaps it was only a few hours, days or weeks ago when your ex broke up with you and walked out of your life. Now, all you can think about is how to get him back, but despite all your attempts, he doesn’t want to reconcile. If you want one more chance with your ex-boyfriend, Amy Waterman and Mirabelle Summers have put together a six-step blueprint for how to get your ex back in 2nd Chance: How to Win Back the Love of Your Ex.

After a breakup, you’re tempted to do all sorts of things you wouldn’t otherwise do just to get your ex back, such as crying, begging and pleading with him, threatening him, or promising to change. None of these do much good to make your ex stay.

Then, you might try to make your ex jealous by flirting with other people, pretending you don’t care at all about him or telling his friends and family how much you love your ex and want him back. Maybe you’ll try to be friends with your ex or even sleep with him, so he remembers how good he once had it.

Rather than helping, these behaviors pretty much destroy any chance you have of getting back with your ex. Your old relationship was broken, so hoping that things will somehow “work” this time around or that you can “fix” things won’t lead to both of you living happily ever after together.

The only way you can work things out is to create a new relationship with your ex – and it’s easier than you think with Waterman and Summers’ six step process. Here’s what you’ll learn in their six-step formula:

1. Get Through the Immediate Grief – When a breakup happens, it seems your whole world unravels. You have to remind yourself that your ex is no longer with you and when you do, you break into tears and feel like the world has ended all over again. It’s at this stage where you have to take some time to pull yourself back together. Don’t contact your ex. Instead, focus on you and getting over your initial grief.
2. Think – Rather than rushing to reconcile with your ex, take some time to understand why you broke up. As painful as it may be to dwell on past mistakes, you have to accept your breakup happened for a reason. Until you know that reason and how both of you could learn from it and do things differently in the future, you won’t be able to re-create a lasting relationship with your ex.
3. Deal with the Anger – When you start looking at the cause of your breakup, you’ll probably feel anger at your ex for something he’s done, whether that’s not making an effort in your relationship, being distant, not acting affectionately, or being too clingy. If you try to deny your anger, it will creep into any new relationship you try to create with your ex. Nothing drives people apart faster than lingering resentment. Until you can make peace with and forgive yourself and your ex for any past mistakes – including the hurt and betrayal you feel from the breakup – you’re not ready to re-establish contact with your ex.
4. Initiate Contact – Once you’ve thought about the reasons for the breakup and forgiven yourself and your ex, you’re ready to start talking to your ex again. You want to initiate contact with the intent of starting a brand new relationship with your ex based on what you’ve learned during the breakup rather than trying to pick things up where you left off. That means re-attracting your ex like you did when you two first started dating.
5. Talk about the Breakup – Once you’re meeting your ex regularly and things are going well, it’s time to talk about what happened during the breakup. You’ll need to address the pain from your previous relationship if you hope to create a stronger relationship.
6. Putting Love into Practice – Finally, you may have reconciled with your ex, but that doesn’t mean you can sit back and relax. Being lazy in your relationship or taking your partner for granted will quickly lead to another split. Here, Waterman and Summers discuss how you can express your love and appreciation for your partner every day of the year.

In addition to this incredibly informative and easy to follow ebook, 2nd Chance: How to Win Back the Love of Your Ex comes with a number of bonuses.

• How To Be Happy – In this extensive 99-page guide, you’ll learn what it takes to be a healthy, happy person.
• How To Heal The Pain Of A Breakup – This guide encourages you to take a healthy 3-step approach to dealing with your breakup pain, rather than falling into the habit of sleeping 20 hours a day, isolating yourself from others, chain smoking, drowning yourself in alcohol or pigging out on junk food.
• Surviving a Breakup Audio Series – This 11-part audio series provides all sorts of inspiration and comfort for those in the aftermath of a breakup.

Verdict: Second chances can work, but only if you are completely honest about why your relationship failed the first time. Both of you must commit to resolve the problems you previously had. If you’re sure you want to get back with your ex, 2nd Chance: How to Win Back the Love of Your Ex offers one of the most straightforward, concise strategies I’ve seen to get your ex back.